What's the Secret?

 I put my 3 boys on the bus this morning for the last day of this school year. 

I used to dread this week in-between. I thought I had to make something happen. Have something planned for every minute of every day. I suffered from a syndrome I’ll call “wishing to be where I’m not, so I can’t be present where I am.”

My plan for this week is presence. Maybe I’ll still feel overwhelmed. Maybe I’ll love this week. I might feel chilled – or extremely stressed. Time will tell. 

But I’m present right here now. 

Now you’ll think I’m perfect with presence.

Far from it.

But I’m definitely more present than I used to be and I can tell you one thing.

Presence is not a thing you accomplish.

It’s something you practice.

And with time, you notice a shift. 

That’s what happened to me with the way I experienced niddah.

I hated every second of it.

“Wishing to be where I’m not, so I can’t be present where I am” syndrome on steroids.

I was so entrenched in the misery of it, I never thought it could be different. So, I never “worked” on improving this experience.

But here’s what happened anyway.

I realized one day that my experience of niddah had shifted.

I began noticing gems I’d been blind to before.

Like being in a dark goldmine, oblivious to the treasures beneath your feet.

Looking back, I can trace it to roughly 3 things I’ve been practicing in my life:

1. I started living more in tune with my cycle.

I came to feel the gift of each phase – the ebb and flow of our cyclical rhythm.

It came from the inside, from how I connected with myself.

And through that, the shift was inevitable.

2. I started taking better care of myself.

Especially during the follicular phase, when estrogen is rising and pleasure hormones are high.

I was able to experience the pleasure of life – of nature, of the things I enjoy, of just being alive in this world.

That brought me into a much more wholesome place inside.

3. I got really honest with myself and my needs.

And I was able to communicate them clearly.

Communication is so important in every relationship – even more so when we're navigating niddah together.

There’s so much more to all of this – each one deserves an email of its own – but what you see is a process of being with myself (and from that place being in relationship so differently) and from there the real transformation happens. 

I’ve been reading your beautiful email responses of how you experience niddah and what you’d like to shift.

I didn’t have a chance to respond yet, because there’s been so much going on. But I read every single one. And I see you.

I will get back to you really soon (my kids start day camp next week, so hang tight) and will address some common themes here as well.

Because these are important conversations to have.

How you experience your cycle is how you experience your life.

My greatest wish for you is to have an awesome cyclical life.

Everything else flows from there. 

Without further ado, we officially open the doors to Secrets of Niddah.

This is where we become someone new through our cycles.

Over 2 weeks (Rosh Chodesh Av to Tu B'Av), I walk you through what actually shifts the experience of niddah – from the inside out.

Not a list of tips.

Not a reframe you force yourself to believe.

A real, lived transformation in how you move through this time.

Because you don't have to keep white-knuckling through niddah.

You don't have to stay blinded in the dark goldmine.

The gems are already there. You'll get to see them shine.

Use code EARLYSECRET for the early bird special until July 1. We start on Rosh Chodesh Av. (Yes, the timing is specifically meditated. I’ll tell you more on that soon.)

If something in this email felt like yes – trust that. That yes is worth following.

Reclaim the Secrets of Niddah

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I look forward to welcome you inside ❤️